It is a well-known fact that Black men are not the most desired when it comes to dating. Even in hookup culture, it is difficult for most Black men to get a quality woman. Despite some claims of women “secretly wanting Black men,” most Black dudes face nothing but dry spells and timewasters in the wasteland of online dating.
It would be disingenuous for me not to acknowledge the role that media and external cultures play on this bleak reality, particularly for those of us seeking non-Black women. The portrayal of the Black man as feckless, thugged out, and criminalistic has left little room for a Black man that desires the same social freedom and mobility that other men can easily obtain. This programming is solidified to the point that people who claim to hate thugs and degenerates will show greater acceptance to a stereotypical brute over a refined Black man. This is a brutal slap to the face to a Black man that tries to “pull himself up by the bootstraps.”
Knowing that most people, especially women, follow media tropes, it is no wonder that a Black man who does not fit neatly into the stereotypical “Black Box” causes errors in mental programming. Within the Black community itself, one can run the risk of being outcasted or labeled a “coon” for not conforming. This even occurs after we have determined elements of this culture to be harmful and self-destructive.
Living in these perilous times and seeing the world for what it is, I can absolutely acknowledge the value of “being on code.” However, when this code is identified as ineffective, it must be reworked, debugged, if you will. One major factor of this code that needs to be reworked is BBC Theory.
What is BBC Theory?
BBC Theory is the theory that Black men are popular with non-Black (particularly White) women. The theory primarily revolves around Black men having slightly larger p3n0rs on average but is also linked to Black men being more athletic, having more staying power in bed, and having more “swag.” It can be argued whether these premises are true or not, but even if they are, does it necessarily mean that being Black alone can guarantee access to passable women?
The Mk. 1 Eyeball says no, as do statistics from various dating sites.
There was a time, a time that I shall refer to as Peak Negro moving forward, that being Black did seem to be a social buff. Peak Negro took place in the United States during the 1990’s and early-to-mid 2000’s. This was a time before social media became ubiquitous to the world, when personality mattered to a degree, and being a “token Negro” could get you some points in social circles. This was a time when Black music (not Latinos and Whites emulating the sound) dominated much of the airwaves and shows like Fresh Prince and Family Matters were watched by families of all races. Living during the age of Peak Negro.
Outside of the US, in places like Japan, Peak Negro came a few years later, and faded near the end of the 2000’s; in many countries it never began. Beyond this timeframe, being Black is a major disadvantage in the dating market. The “Kokujo Fad” in Japan has ended, and it is no longer the best place in Asia for Black men. In fact, due to the high cost of living and relative difficulty of finding employment, it is arguably one of the worst places to go in Asia for Black men.
The Church of BBC and its Followers
Despite Peak Negro ending almost a decade ago, there are some that still cling to BBC Theory for dear life. Based on my observations, there are two general camps that still want to believe:
Non-Black Incels that believe that being a Black man is an unjustified easy mode. This is similar to those that use the affirmative action argument to complain that Black men are taking jobs even though White men that apply themselves will still likely get much further in life overall than Black men. This fuels rage against Black men that are not really winning. Wish we were, but the Incel Rage against “BBC’s” is unfounded.
Some non-Black incels also cope by telling themselves that women easily fall into the laps of Black men. They would rather believe this myth than facing the facts that they are just too ugly or foxtrot uniform (fucked up) to get a girl. To be fair, stating that it is “over for Blackcels” when there are Black men succeeding in the dating market can also be a coping mechanism used by shit-tier Black guys. However, statistics show that overall, Black men are not highly desired. This includes “Tyrone” and “Idris,” who are nowhere near as desired as Chads of other races. Average Joes of other races perform at superior levels compared to Tyrone in many cases as well.
Black Men make up the second group that still clings desperately to BBC Theory. These are the dudes that believe that “dey all luh us mayne” just because a woman listens to rap, or they may have gotten lucky once with a non-Black woman. Years pass, and these folks are still masturbating to the one scene where Rin Aoki got banged by a Brotha. They have never stepped foot in Japan, and certainly haven’t successfully bedded a Japanese woman. Every indicator displays the social value of Black men declining. This is especially the case for those that are not actively working to improve themselves. Despite this reality, they will never acknowledge that their BBC fantasy is a one-way street headed right over a cliff.
Peak Negro has Ended. Is it Over for Blackcels?
Peak Negro has ended, and the Black man’s social value is in freefall. Still, I will not say that being Black is a total SMV death sentence. Maybe I am delusional with bias, just like the aforementioned fools that cling to BBC Theory. However, unlike them, my sugar pills are coated in a hard dose of reality.
It will be much harder for Black men to score (especially with non-Black women), and it always has been.
This has always been the case for those that did not fit the media portrayal a “cool Black man” stereotype. BBC Theory, even during Peak Negro, did not apply to all Black men. Tyrone, Tyrone-lite, Pookie and Ray-Ray, and Idris (for crossover appeal) were the real winners. Of course, Drake, Stephen Curry, and other mixed, light-skinned, or racially ambiguous types have their advantage. This advantage is even stronger overseas where they can use their ambiguity to escape being boxed in as Black. Archetypal or dark-skinned Blacks that did not fit the narrative were often outcasted in the sexual marketplace. Our options have always been to carve out our own niches, maximize potential, or feign conformance to the stereotypical norms.
Unless Black people manage to ascend globally as a race, or the powers that be decide to have a Negro Media Renaissance that actually takes hold of a sizable number of people around the world, we can give up the idea of there ever being a real Pussy Paradise for Black men as a whole. The only solution is maximum personal development and support for each other. The few of us that do succeed, especially as lone operatives, must know that we can be easily captured. Our minds, bodies, and if you believe it, souls, are easily captured. Moreover, any success will probably be on borrowed time.
Still, I am happy that I can reminisce about those fleeting moments railing Chinese women in the shower. This is much more appealing than being “down wit” a struggle that is getting nowhere at all.
Until next time, this has been Mr. Admiral Man, oh, and protect yourselves at all times.