Nicholas McCrary, better known as BlackCel (Black Incel) YouTuber Baraka Mkray, passed away on September 19th, 2018. The cause of his death is unknown, but given the despair that he faced in life, it is possible that he committed suicide.
This is a sad occurrence that hits home for me. While I found humor in his bizarre antics, it is sad that he had to lose his life at such a young age, having not had the chance to really live or enjoy life. His demise does bring three critical lessons to mind, which I hope that we can all learn from to prevent following a similar pathway.
1. Venting Online is Fruitless and Dangerous
Those of us that live lives that are not quite what we want them to be might find it cathartic to vent online. This is something that I am guilty of, but something that I would rather avoid moving forward. Venting does not resolve our problems in the real world. Airing our troubles online can also make us easy targets for those that would get their jollies from our miseries. Putting out too much information exposes weaknesses that unscrupulous trolls will use to inflict real-life harm.
2. Do Not Seek Sympathy
I learned at a very young age that those that would need sympathy rarely get it. When I had allergies as a kid, my classmates would always laugh if I sneezed. If a popular kid sneezed, however, my classmates would go out of their way to tell them “bless you.”
In the world of the incels, this concept is illustrated in vivid color on a daily basis. It is the “Chads” and “Stacies” that garner sympathy for their first-word problems, and it is they that can utilize sympathy and turn it into power. Incels and TFLers, on the other hand, are cannon fodder for jokes and further social ostracism.
Instead of seeking sympathy, look to take action to better your life. Even if you get a token of sympathy here and there, it is unlikely to actually resolve your problems at their roots.
3. Mental Illness is Not Cured by Christianity
Not every incel deals with acute mental illness, but the signs were there that Baraka Mkray dealt with more than just being physically unattractive or having low social status. He stated in many of his videos that he was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome.
After reading his obituary, it appears that Baraka came from a heavily Christian background, like many Black Americans. While religion can be a balm for some, for others, it can only increase delusion and madness. Involved friends and family, tangible action, and perhaps assistance from mental health specialists would be a better course of therapy than relying on GodJesus and the Bear. I am not trying to pick on Christianity either, as the same can be said for any religious belief system.
“Death smiles at us all.”
Ideally, we will be able to take actions to ensure that our time in this plane of existence is enjoyable and meaningful. Sitting and complaining, or wallowing in a cesspit of negativity can be appealing, but these actions have a low probability of leading to success. We are all better off striving to improve ourselves. This does not mean kowtowing to our adversaries, but making real moves instead of just complaining.
At any rate, the game of life has ended for Mr. Nicholas McCrary. May he rest in peace.