Some of you may recall a period of incredible negativity that I had last year regarding a particular Chinese woman. This period of negativity was actually the catalyst to the rapid self-improvement that I have been undergoing. I am far from where I really want to be, and I still battle demons of envy, lethargy, self-pity, negativity, et. al. to this day. Looking back on it all, I have come quite a way forward.
I have come so far forward, in fact, that I had the privilege of fucking this same girl three times in the past twenty-four hours. The process that I used to get from zero to panties is not very complex at all. That is not to say that it would work every time; I still believe that most girls that place us in the friendzone aren’t going to drop their drawers anytime soon, but this experience is proof that it can and will happen on occasion. Here is the basic rundown of what I did:
Worked Harder on Self Improvement
The anger that I had over Ms. Changsha’s “betrayal” drove me to hit the gym hard. I was probably at the peak of my muscularity during this time (I’ve toned it down a bit since it made me feel sluggish and was not my ideal aesthetic given my lack of height and body type). I also set out to read more about the Game, looking for any tool, tactic, or piece of information that I could use to better my life. This lead me to checking out PlayerSupreme’s material again, and taking his teachings seriously rather than complaining about the truths that he presented, as many an incel has done to their own detriment. Of course, I had to take my own preferences into consideration, but the majority of the lessons learned from PlayerSupreme, along with reading several personal development books, skimming relevant Manosphere blogs every morning, and continuous self-improvement brought me out of the muck that I was in.
Admitted my Feelings for Her
It seems weak for a man to openly admit his feelings for a woman that has shown disinterest, but in my personal case, it is something that I had to come to grips with. Had I not told her, it is something that would have haunted me, possibly for the remainder of my life. Letting Ms. Changsha know my feelings for her could have gassed her up, but regardless of the outcome, a burden has been lifted from me, similar to the “beast” that the titular character had inside of him in the 2006 movie, Rocky Balboa.
Fucking Other Girls
It is said that the best way to get over a girl is to get under other girls. My rapid self-improvement allowed me to attract other women, and although my pickings were few as a heterosexual Black man with Yellow Fever, I still got mine in. I became animalistic, taking out my frustration by demolishing the sugarwalls of Ms. Changsha’s distant cousins. Each thrust desecrating their sacred temples with my Black bishop, violating the rules by thrusting in and out, up and down, no longer restricted to the obliques. If we cannot get the “girl of our dreams,” we can at least get some wallz here and there.
Disclaimer: I am in no way advocating for a man to start going for fugly chicks, dudes, obese women, or women that they are otherwise not attracted to. The point that I was trying to make is that “Oneitis” or totally unrealistic can be deadly to our sex lives.
Treating Her as a Friend
I forgot the exact quote, but The Book of Pook tells us that should we find ourselves in the dreaded friendzone, that we should treat these women as we would treat our friends. What do I do with my friends? Well, one thing that I do is talk about women that I fucked. This was the catalyst that launched me out of the friendzone with Ms. Changsha.
By talking about sex with her, I was able to do three critical things at once:
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Firstly, I sexualized myself in her mind. I was no longer the loser complaining about Chinese girls not liking Black men, or the academic nerd that she had met before.
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Secondly, I showed value and experience. Since other Chinese woman found me attractive enough to fuck, maybe she could too.
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Thirdly, I took her off of the pedestal and treated her like a person, not the prude that I imagined her to be.
Maybe our relationship won’t last forever, and perhaps it shouldn’t. At the very least, however, Ms. Changsha is another painting on my fuselage, as if the Tuskegee Airmen teamed up with the Flying Tigers in this Far East theater of operations.
I cannot say that these tactics will work to get you out of the friendzone every time, but it worked for me this time. If you think that you have a chance at it, particularly if there seemed to have been initial attraction on the part of the girl, then you might want to give these techniques a try.